Dress for your Day

Ya’ll, I’m sorry. I’m really bad at this whole posting-every-day-for-the-challenge thing. Especially when big projects at work happen and I come home exhausted and barely able to get through my (almost habit!) evening routine.

The good news is that I’ve been doing the dishes consistently before going to bed! I do love waking up to a clean kitchen. I’ve also been able to read to Tristan consistently and it’s such a special time for me each day!

Day 8 was funny for me. I opened the book and the subject was “dress for your day.” The thought that one good action breeds another must be true because as my evening routine became more routine, I was already mentally planning my outfits for the next morning. Yay me! I don’t lay out my clothes because there’s no real place to put them, but having a mental idea makes the morning so much easier!

I have this one work outfit where I wear grey dress pants, a black sleeveless cowl-neck sweater, and a sparkly black bracelet. The bracelet addition really makes me feel like I have my life together.

Grey and black…yep, I’m officially boring.

Related: Save up to 90% by shopping at ThredUp

When not wearing dress clothes, I prefer a relaxed vibe. I have a toddler and we enjoy long walks to the park (and swinging, and playing soccer, etc). Dressing for my day often means capris and a cute shirt. I loathe and despise tennis shoes, usually opting instead for Toms or ballet flats.

Do you lay out your clothes?

This is Day 8 in a 14-day challenge, Makeover Your Evenings. If you haven’t purchased your course yet, you can do so by clicking here.

 

 

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How to be Happy in a Negative World

How to be happy in a world that values negativity

 

“Every day you have a choice: a choice to focus on the negative or the positive.” Crystal Paine

Total transparency here: This week has been tough. Yes, I realize it’s Monday. I’m talking about this whole last week, starting with last Monday. I’ve been so tightly wound that I am having trouble relaxing, so I’m getting back into the habit of using my wonderful essential oil blends to help me unwind.

This morning, Peter told me I looked stressed. He got out of bed before I did and made me some super strong coffee. It was exactly what I needed, and I had a great day.

My top love language is Words of Affirmation. However, because I take my all my various responsibilities seriously, I never really feel like my efforts are good enough. There is a very fine line between positive self talk and not pushing yourself to be better, and I don’t think I’ve quite mastered the balance.

But I’ve been so stressed recently that I’m developing wrinkles, and this is a problem.

27-year-olds should not get wrinkles.

I need more water.

Getting rid of negative self talk will be an ongoing process. I would personally really appreciate if I could snap my fingers and suddenly change everything that needs to be improved upon in my life, but where’s the fun in that?

If the beauty is in the struggle then it’s my job to recognize that in the midst of aforementioned struggle. I will embrace the goal of validating without excusing, and pushing myself without downplaying.

I will celebrate my victories without resting on them, but I will give myself grace to take a nap here or there when I need it.

I can already feel myself start to unwind.

 

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Why You Need an Evening Routine: The Cure for the Mombie Effect

If you're a tired and busy mom, you NEED this top tip to accomplish your goals without losing your mind!

“Mombie” – a sleep-deprived mom who is barely held together by coffee and yoga pants (or, since I ditched my yoga pants, skinny jeans). 

The other morning, I woke up super late. I hadn’t completed my evening routine the night before, so I (somewhat frantically) rushed through my evening and morning routines and was feeling super proud of myself until I got to work and realized I left my coffee on the counter.

Mornings happen. Sometimes, despite our best intentions, things just go wrong. That’s okay (well, unless you leave your coffee at home, in which case – cry away, my friend)!

Your morning, no matter what time you actually get out of bed, is determined by how you set yourself up the night before.

Easy Evening Routine Ideas

You can give yourself a huge step up each day by completing a few simple tasks the night before:

  • Do the dishes. Waking up to a clean kitchen is instantly energizing.
  • Fill the kettle with water so it’s ready to go first thing in the morning, or get the coffee maker ready to go so you just have to press the on button.
  • Pick out an outfit for the next day. Even jewelry if you’re really feeling crazy.
  • Make sure you have a plan for breakfast the next morning. Through trial and error, we have discovered that homemade muffins are what works the best for us.
  • Pack a healthy lunch (and don’t forget snacks!)

When I consistently complete my evening routines, I free up space in my mornings for extra time with Peter and Tristan, or extra sleeping time if we need it. And since I’m not rushing around, I remember my coffee. Mombie cured.

Are Routines Necessary?

Routines are so key to accomplishing goals. Routines put simple tasks on autopilot for you, so you can create the space to do whatever it is you really want to do.

Want more time with the kids, but feel constantly behind on life? You need a morning and evening routine to make sure you get the most important things taken care of first!

Are you needing to save money but spend too much going out to eat? You need a meal prep routine! (and you also need to download my Meal Planning for Busy People free guide!)

Create Space in Your Days

Routines remove that “what should I be doing next?” fear and instead create space by creating order. For instance, my mornings are much calmer and I am able to accomplish more (like writing this blog post) when I’ve cleaned the kitchen the night before. Because the kitchen task is already taken care of thanks to my evening routine, I have space in my morning to move forward with my blogging goals. Ta-da!

Related: Get Your Sh*t Together: How to Get it All Done

Most of these realizations and habits came when I blogged through MoneySavingMom’s Makeover Your Mornings 14-day course late last year. I’m so excited for the release of her follow-up challenge, Makeover Your Evenings, which goes live tomorrow! I got an early release copy and have been looking through it. I can’t begin to tell you how awesome this course is and how many big things will be happening because of it.

Ready to make over your evenings with me? Sign up here, then leave me a comment to let me know!`

 

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